Money Problems in Marriage

Have you ever wondered the problems money can cause in marriage? Too much of it, no money at all or one patner having more money than the other partner! Thats why they say money is the root of all evils, but if you dont have it, its even more evil...

If some men have too much money they concentrate so much on making more and less on their families, all they think about is how to make more contacts, get contracts and so on, there will be money to buy almost every thing but virtually no more time to seat together with the family and no time for love and romance, they believe that what the woman wants when she romances a man is money and so they will satisfy her with that relegating the place of love.

If a man does not have money there is trouble because he will always want to strive to get it because he will believe he is lagging behind in his duty as the husband and head of the home but another problem can rise form here and this problem is common in most African men...the woman having more or earning more than the man...

Some African men believe it is almost like a taboo for a woman to be the one cathering for the home or a woman having or earning more money than the man. They let their ego take precedence over their love which gradually bridge a gap in the home and in some cases break it.

I believe that there is nothing wrong in a woman having more money in a realtionship, the most important thing is the love and understanding that exist between both of them, no matter what the woman should not let the man lose his respect whether in front of the children, in-laws, family or neighbours. There is nothing wrong in woman building a house or buying a car for the family so far the needs of the family is met at the time due but no matter what so ever the woman does with her money she has to be submissive, she doesn't have to keep telling people she did this or that, even the kids don't have to know the deficiency of their father, the man has to maintain his position as the head of the household and the woman his help mate.

Lots of woman have tried to help their husband and in the process gotten their fingers burnt. But the problem with the world is that we let other peoples mistakes affect our judgement of life, some men have seen instances of woman having more money and taking over the control of the home and misbehaving and so as a result of this they are determined not positively but negatively not to let a woman rule them even if she is not, they mistake all the signs and in the end they end up losing the woman that should have been their precious jewel. A man should not become the lion of the tribe of his own home or a monster because of inferiority complex, instead understanding, togetherness, love and respect for each other, your wife is not a slave and should not be enslaved, she is your helpmate and not your flat mate.

Not all women are bad and not all men are ungrateful but if you let the mistake of one person rub on you negatively you will lose that which you are supposed to hold on to. The place of love and understanding in marriage is very important because you can give without loving but you cannot love without giving....