Right and Wrong Reasons for Marriage

Some people are always so scared of getting married i wonder why? Marriage is the sweetest thing that can ever happen to a man or woman although it has its own ups and down, you should note that your marriage is as a
result of what you want it to be.

The mindset of an individual is very important when it comes to the issue of marriage. Making your marriage work or having a successful marriage has nothing to do with age or even social status. You don't have to be old to be matured , its in your mindset. People get married for various reasons and most of the time they are very wrong reasons for doing so, this is one of the reasons why the rate of divorce and broken home is so high. Lets examine these wrong and right reasons

Wrong Reasons to Get Married

· Want to be free from parents and have a home of your own where you will be in charge.
· To have sex or to curb your lust or even in some cases to avoid pre-marital sex.
· To ease loneliness and have a companion to make you happy or to have someone to share things with.
· To be an adult or to prove a point.
· Because of a pregnancy, not wanting to give birth out of wedlock.
· Getting carried away by emotion and passion without really identifying if its love or lust
· To save or help someone, because you feel pity for the person.
· Because you want a baby and you believe the only way to have one is to get married.
· For money and social status.
· Because all your friends are married and you don't want to feel left out.
· You've always wanted a fancy wedding or have always dreamt of getting married.
· Out of fear that no one else will want to marry you.
. For beauty and physical attributes which might fade with time.
· For immigration purposes.

Right Reasons to Get Married

· You are in love with one another not just a one-sided love where one party is more in love than the other which can lead to heartbreak.
· A desire to share your life with another not out of pity or compulsion but out of love.
· To have a lifetime companion who you can grow old with without looking back with regrets or wishing you shouldn't have married the person.
· Realistic expectations.
· Willingness to help one another fulfill their own needs and dreams without being a burden to one another.

It is important to note that no matter the reasons you had for getting married if you have done it already, you can still make it work, your marriage is what you make it to be, look at the right reasons and start to develop yourself towards using it to make the best of what you have got.

If you are yet to get married this is something you must look at before you take that BOLD STEP.